Our world in their hands - the three stooges

Clueless

Anyone who totally fails to see the risks of taking significant and crucial actions and decisions - including seriously misjudging the outcome of her own 'called' general election and dangerously hangs onto the coat tails of the Americans - especially now they are led by the erratic and unstable Trump shouldn't be PM in my opinion. I don't know about you but I don't want my children and grandchildren to become Russian crisps because of manic gung-ho Trump and his followers. What about the hugely under-funded and under staffed NHS and the Social Care of people here at home?

Brainless

The verbal cock-ups uttered by this man are innumerable. What was Teresa May thinking giving this man the most important international job in our government? He is not fit for purpose. He even looks like Trump! In these days of world troubles and unrest, surely we need a true diplomat who is capable of dealing at the highest levels with world leaders without causing friction and irritation as he goes. Other world leaders must be laughing at us with this guy as our representative abroad. Why does Oliver Hardy come to mind?

Dangerous Sociopath

A sociopath can be defined as a person who has a serious Antisocial Personality Disorder. This disorder is characterised by a total disregard for the feelings of others, a lack of remorse or shame, manipulative behavior, unchecked egocentricity and the easy willingness to use and repeatedly lie to other people in order to achieve their goals. Sociopaths consider other people merely tools to be used and abused and can be very dangerous. Many of us know one and they are often very successful people. It's easy to see why. Ed.

What she really means . . . . How to decode what she says

Words are not enough

…for women, that is. “Words are just part of women’s communication process and will often use them in context, adding real meaning with body language or tone of voice,” says Julia. “Men, however, tend to use words in a ‘say it straight or you’ll get it crooked’ fashion – which is why they’re often accused of being tactless or blunt.” 

No questions asked

So if your other half has said she doesn’t want anything for Valentine’s Day, how can you figure out what’s really going on in her head?


“What women often mean when we say we don’t want a gift or treat is that we didn’t want to be asked,” explains Julia. “Asking shows a lack of understanding of our character and our emotions. If we have to agree to a gift and even tell you what we want, that gift will instantly become unromantic and meaningless. For women, gifts are a measure of understanding and effort on a guy’s behalf.”


It’s the thought that counts

Julia suggests that while we might say we don't want a fuss, we do want the guy to want to make one. Confusing, huh! “We want a man to be able to evaluate our words versus our true feelings, just like when we say we’re ‘fine’, when our body language and vocal tone clearly signal that we’re not.”

How to get it just right

So can’t you just come out and ask what she means? “Challenging a woman is never a good idea here,” warns Julia. “Then you’re calling her bluff on the incongruent signalling, or worse, accusing her of lying. Better to plan a surprise which you deliver with the line ‘I know you said you didn’t want anything but I wanted to let you know how I feel about you’. Focus on the outgoing aspect of the gifting process – that you wanted to give it, rather than the fact that she wanted to receive it. Never make her feel greedy.”

Do some detective work

But how do you go about deciding how much fuss to make? If you’re going to bring up the subject of the gift, Julia recommends talking to your partner face to face so you can check out her vocal tone and body language. “If she looks or sounds faintly annoyed (tight lips, averted gaze, even a dismissive shrug), then she’s indicating you were wrong to ask, but not wrong to get something. If she laughs and sounds too bright and breezy, she’s being modest. Look for an over-stretched smile and lots of eye contact plus some extravagant gesticulation.


“If you manage to make your offer while the gift is in view, i.e. you’re both looking in the jewellery shop window, only focus on her eye gaze. If she wants something she’ll gaze at it longingly despite denying the fact she wants it, or she may look away but then return her gaze to the gift after a pause.” 


And if you’re still unsure? Remember it’s the gesture that is important, so buy tickets to a concert or gig you know she wants to see, or for a pretty fail-safe option that shows you care and doesn’t cost the earth, cook her favourite dinner.


Inspiration

Always aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Always aim at purifying your thoughts and everything will be well.

-- Mahatma Gandhi


Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any one thing.

-- Abraham Lincoln


Be nice to people on your way up because you meet them on your way down.

-- Jimmy Durante


Be not the slave of your own past. Plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep and swim far, so you shall come back with self-respect, with new power, with an advanced experience that shall explain and overlook the old.

-- Ralph Waldo Emerson


Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.

-- Theodore Roosevelt


Don't say you don't have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresa, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein.

-- H. Jackson Brown


Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there.

-- Will Rogers


Every really new idea looks crazy at first.

-- Alfred North Whitehead


History will be kind to me for I intend to write it.

-- Sir Winston Churchill


I haven't failed, I've found 10,000 ways that don't work.

-- Thomas Edison


If you cannot work with love but only with distaste, it is better that you should leave your work.

-- Kahlil Gibran


If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.

-- Henry David Thoreau


Imagination is more important than knowledge...

-- Albert Einstein


Imagination is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire, you will what you imagine and at last you create what you will.

-- George Bernard Shaw


It is common sense to take a method and try it. If it fails, admit it frankly and try another. But above all, try something.

-- Franklin D. Roosevelt


It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.

-- Aristotle


It's a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything but the best, you very often get it.

-- W. Somerset Maugham


It's kind of fun to do the impossible.

-- Walt Disney


Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.

-- Mark Twain


One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love.

-- Sophocles


Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in getting up every time we do.

-- Confucius


Pleasure in the job puts perfection in the work.

-- Aristotle


The aim of life is self-development. To realize one's nature perfectly - that is what each of us is here for.

-- Oscar Wilde


The secret to creativity is knowing how to hide your sources.

-- Albert Einstein


The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.

-- Albert Einstein


The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.

-- Samuel Johnson


The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are always so certain of themselves, but wiser people so full of doubts.

l-- Bertrand Russell

While we are postponing, life speeds by.

-- Seneca

A good idea

Free calls?

0800 numbers are free, by law, from mobiles but the rest of the 08 and 03 market and other prefixes is a very grey area. Check with your mobile network provider what is free and what is not. Get them to email or text you with the answer so that if they get it wrong (and they do!) you can prove what was said!


"He said" "she said"

On Android phones you can download free apps which allow you to record phone calls. You can choose to record automatically all calls or click to record individual calls. You are alloed to do this for your own use, but not to pass to others without permission. However, this will prove when someone has said something to you, they later deny. Online stores, service providers, etc.

Check the cost before you call

There are some 'wizards' available on iPhonea and Android which allow you to enter the premium rate number (08 / 09 / etc) and in many cases you will be given the normal 'geographic' number (01 / 02 / etc). For example "Saynoto0870", there are of course others.

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